Post by thisisme on Aug 20, 2023 17:44:07 GMT
I haven’t done one of these before, but I need to talk to someone before I explode! (I have anxiety and I tend to overthink. Everything. In circles) I am a born female and I believe (for now) that I am female. I am currently questioning my sexuality identity, but I have zero experience with boys, girls or anyone else and I am unlikely to gain any experience any time soon. I have been questioning this for at least 4 years and I have finally found this. Please help me if you can!
Bisexual/Pansexual/Etc. - I think I have the most evidence of being attracted to men: I have had many celebrity crushes - most men, some have been women/nb/gen fl/etc. but I am not sure if I find men predominantly attractive because of my personal preferences or because of the societal norms I was raised with. I am not sure if I am suppressing the side of me attracted to other genders or if I am overthinking things. (I keep going around in circles. Practical experience might help, but I don’t know if I will get that experience any time soon
) I have found myself (hopefully discreetly) checking out all varieties of people and appreciating them on different levels. I find faces to be the most attractive thing to me. Most of my crushes have been on men, but I have had an intense dream about a girl too. I’m not sure if I am bisexual or pan or straight or bi-curious or anything else that I might not know about (I have researched)
Queer-platonic - I have only recently started to think about this. I don’t get to socialise with people around my age very often so I am not sure if I am just projecting or if I am qp, but I get very clingy to my very few friendships in a way that they don’t so much. I deeply love my friends in a way that in the past I have believed were potentially romantic it feels so deep (and added to the questioning of my romantic sexuality), but I was never attracted to most of them and have now begun to think I could actually be qp. It could also be that I don’t get to see them often and that it is a friend missing her friend. All I know is I miss my friend so much when she is gone, qp or not.
Demisexual/Asexual - I won’t go into much detail with this, but I have seen naked bodies on screen (movies, tv shows, etc.) and unless there is a deep background story that is sexually stimulating to me, I don’t find them attractive (barring Henry Cavill in the Witcher because ughh). In real life I have never seen below somebody’s waistline, but I have seen a few men topless and women clad in only a bra/swim suit (I don’t believe I have seen any other gender topless, but I am unsure). The men I found the most attractive, but I have also seen more of them and it feels more forbidden as well, so that might add to the attraction. In terms of the terms listed: I don’t know about asexual, because I have found some people to be attractive, but I sometimes am unsure about whether it is attraction or sexual attraction which is different. Also asexuality is so broad and varies so much from person to person. About demisexual: I feel like I would need to build a strong friendship/relationship with them before moving onto sexual acts and the support of having that relationship makes me feel a lot more comfortable and enthused at the idea of sex. I don’t think I can really know without experience, but the idea of most vanilla sexual acts with someone I know and trust sounds much more attractive to me than a one-night stand (which is actually a HUGE turn off), but I am not sure if I am overthinking (again) or if I will find out anytime soon.
All I would like is some help to figure out what I can. I have been trying for more than 4 years and I don’t know where else to ask. Thank you!
Also I know I generalised so many orientations above. I’m sorry!
Bisexual/Pansexual/Etc. - I think I have the most evidence of being attracted to men: I have had many celebrity crushes - most men, some have been women/nb/gen fl/etc. but I am not sure if I find men predominantly attractive because of my personal preferences or because of the societal norms I was raised with. I am not sure if I am suppressing the side of me attracted to other genders or if I am overthinking things. (I keep going around in circles. Practical experience might help, but I don’t know if I will get that experience any time soon
) I have found myself (hopefully discreetly) checking out all varieties of people and appreciating them on different levels. I find faces to be the most attractive thing to me. Most of my crushes have been on men, but I have had an intense dream about a girl too. I’m not sure if I am bisexual or pan or straight or bi-curious or anything else that I might not know about (I have researched)Queer-platonic - I have only recently started to think about this. I don’t get to socialise with people around my age very often so I am not sure if I am just projecting or if I am qp, but I get very clingy to my very few friendships in a way that they don’t so much. I deeply love my friends in a way that in the past I have believed were potentially romantic it feels so deep (and added to the questioning of my romantic sexuality), but I was never attracted to most of them and have now begun to think I could actually be qp. It could also be that I don’t get to see them often and that it is a friend missing her friend. All I know is I miss my friend so much when she is gone, qp or not.
Demisexual/Asexual - I won’t go into much detail with this, but I have seen naked bodies on screen (movies, tv shows, etc.) and unless there is a deep background story that is sexually stimulating to me, I don’t find them attractive (barring Henry Cavill in the Witcher because ughh). In real life I have never seen below somebody’s waistline, but I have seen a few men topless and women clad in only a bra/swim suit (I don’t believe I have seen any other gender topless, but I am unsure). The men I found the most attractive, but I have also seen more of them and it feels more forbidden as well, so that might add to the attraction. In terms of the terms listed: I don’t know about asexual, because I have found some people to be attractive, but I sometimes am unsure about whether it is attraction or sexual attraction which is different. Also asexuality is so broad and varies so much from person to person. About demisexual: I feel like I would need to build a strong friendship/relationship with them before moving onto sexual acts and the support of having that relationship makes me feel a lot more comfortable and enthused at the idea of sex. I don’t think I can really know without experience, but the idea of most vanilla sexual acts with someone I know and trust sounds much more attractive to me than a one-night stand (which is actually a HUGE turn off), but I am not sure if I am overthinking (again) or if I will find out anytime soon.
All I would like is some help to figure out what I can. I have been trying for more than 4 years and I don’t know where else to ask. Thank you!
Also I know I generalised so many orientations above. I’m sorry! 