Post by please on Nov 16, 2023 20:31:45 GMT
Hi, I need a little help with what’s going on with a woman I’m casually seeing. I’m married to a woman and she is married to a man. We are in open marriages.
We have know each other a couple of years but for the last few months it’s become sexualised. I’ve liked her for a long time, not sure how long she’s liked me but she was the one wanting to meet, just her and me and made the conversations sexual. We made out one evening and since then have sext every day, sending each other nudes. She will even dress for me and tells me what she wants to do to me.
We had planned to have sex one day however things got in the way and it didn’t happen. She later said she got anxiety and panicked and the planning made it not fun anymore. She hasn’t been with a woman before and I am the first she wants to be with.
We are still like we were prior to that, probably even more sexually explicit with each other.
I had mentioned going out for Thai food one day. The other night she had drank a little and said did I have Thai food at my home. Her intention was clear. We didn’t make any plans when this would happen. Today I saw her and we were chatting and she suddenly said let’s go out to an actual Thai place and not yours. So this is where I am lost. Is she scared of having sex with me? Maybe she’s really nervous? At the same time I don’t know if she just loves the sexting and sending each other nudes and so on. When she is with me irl though she sits and walks with her body on mine, the way that she looks at me all point to her wanting me.
I don’t know if I should just be going along with whatever she says, at her pace? Let her make the first moves? I don’t want to be strung along though - It is a lot of my energy having her in my life like this- not only wanting her but the time I take communicating with her and giving part of myself to her. I did ask her once if she wanted this and she said she wanted casual sex with me as well as a friend. I’m so confused.
We have know each other a couple of years but for the last few months it’s become sexualised. I’ve liked her for a long time, not sure how long she’s liked me but she was the one wanting to meet, just her and me and made the conversations sexual. We made out one evening and since then have sext every day, sending each other nudes. She will even dress for me and tells me what she wants to do to me.
We had planned to have sex one day however things got in the way and it didn’t happen. She later said she got anxiety and panicked and the planning made it not fun anymore. She hasn’t been with a woman before and I am the first she wants to be with.
We are still like we were prior to that, probably even more sexually explicit with each other.
I had mentioned going out for Thai food one day. The other night she had drank a little and said did I have Thai food at my home. Her intention was clear. We didn’t make any plans when this would happen. Today I saw her and we were chatting and she suddenly said let’s go out to an actual Thai place and not yours. So this is where I am lost. Is she scared of having sex with me? Maybe she’s really nervous? At the same time I don’t know if she just loves the sexting and sending each other nudes and so on. When she is with me irl though she sits and walks with her body on mine, the way that she looks at me all point to her wanting me.
I don’t know if I should just be going along with whatever she says, at her pace? Let her make the first moves? I don’t want to be strung along though - It is a lot of my energy having her in my life like this- not only wanting her but the time I take communicating with her and giving part of myself to her. I did ask her once if she wanted this and she said she wanted casual sex with me as well as a friend. I’m so confused.
