4 months before our wedding fiancee questioning sexuality

Hey thanks for your post and reaching out. I'm sorry that this is a difficuilt time for you but things will improve, eventually, the more we unpack how we are feeling. Hope forums work out well for you.

Sounds like you have a strong relationship where you are able to listen to each other. I find listening is often the key to understanding. Listening often does not require advice or opinions in response. The person often wants to be just listened to. I find this difficult myself when I don't agree with my life-partner but accept that they are on their own journey and I am here for them. We tend to check in with each other every month.

Looks like you are doing your best and you have had a very tough year and with a wedding coming up in April this may feel over-whelming, emotionally, at times. I can hear why you feel uncertain and childhood experiences of religion and religious attitudes are often difficult to unpack and throw away - these things take time. I guess asking open questions to each other, or writing down questions you want to ask or even writing down your thoughts may be a way of thinking through this uncertainty. Ask yourself what is currently working? What do you both want? Where do you see yourselves in 5 years time? (I am sure you are doing all this already and you sound like a supportive person.) What boundaries can you both set in place which will allows you both to listen to each other better?

I'm sorry you had a rough year and I guess continued communication and setting boundaries when you both need may help. In all this it is important to look after your self-care, which is a daily practice, but when we are feeling emotional this can be difficult. Try newer solutions like couple counselling or having an agreed person who will listen to you both sometimes helps, as long as confidentiality is adhered to. Again you may be already trying this. Sometimes do a short creative art course can help too - or something you both may not be naturally good at - so you can learn together?

I am wishing you the very best and stay in touch.

Please some helpful links below:

www.lgbthero.org.uk/find-support
findout.lgbthero.org.uk/
www.lgbthero.org.uk/fs158-six-ways-to-make-the-best-of-a-break-up (just to say you clearly both already have a strong relationship)
www.lgbthero.org.uk/self-esteem
www.lgbthero.org.uk/pages/category/self-care