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Post by notgoodenough on May 25, 2019 22:48:53 GMT
Maybe you should write an article about all of this and how you feel for OutLife. Like your letter to the community. That way you can get everything off your chest and let OutLife deliver that message for you. People will never change unless they know how you feel. Hey OutLife, would you publish that? Actually I would be very interested in something along these lines. Potentially in a few parts. As I think I said in earlier comments, I feel there are some aspects of this which are rarely discussed or represented, however I certainly dont feel that I am alone in how I feel. However as much as it can help to rant about it to vent frustration I also think it could be productive to try talk about it more rationally and engage in a more general debate about some of these issues. |
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Post by matth on Jun 8, 2019 2:49:35 GMT
I would like to hear your story in your own words. Please write it for OutLife.
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Post by notgoodenough on Jun 11, 2019 12:27:33 GMT
Sadly I feel my time is up
People only want to hear the stories of attractive people or guys who have lived a lie and/or cheated on unsuspecting women.
It just seems any attempts for me to try and actively do anything to move on, to try and forget those who have made me feel like this just are met with more and more gay men making it clear I am not good enough to even speak to and that I am too repuslsively ugly worhtless and hated to be deserving of either social acceptance, or a sex life, let alone a relationship.
I feel totally cursed. Hell if the ***T who abused me as a kid has been good enough to find love and acceptance whereas I never have it is a hugely strong message I really would be better off dead
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Post by matth on Jun 11, 2019 12:33:08 GMT
No you're not. All you have to do is read the comments on here to see that people care and want you to be happy. Look at the positives from that.
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Post by nic on Jun 11, 2019 13:05:48 GMT
Hi notgoodenough,
I'm glad you've come to us when you felt like this. First, if you feel like your life is in danger please call 999 immediately and tell them how you feel. If you are close to an A&E go there and tell them. You will be met with people who know how to help.
If you need to talk to someone now, call:
Samaritans: 116 123, available to listen and talk, non-judgementally about anything you want. You don't need to be suicidal to call. Open 24/7, 365 days a year.
Emergency Services: 999, in the case of a medical emergency, or if you fear for your own well-being or safety, call and ask for an ambulance.
If you'd rather talk to someone who is LGBTQ+, then it's best to call Switchboard. It's a helpline for run by LGBTQ+ volunteers and it's been going for decades. They can listen to your thoughts and feelings, and possibly direct you somewhere that can help. It's a really great service and you might find that talking to another LGBTQ+ person provides some relief. Call them on 0300 330 0630 from 10am - 10pm. They also intermittently run a web chat service if that's more your thing: switchboard.lgbt/
As others have said maybe writing down how you feel can help? You could start it as a journal or open letter to the community about the issues you think don't get talked about enough. Let us know what you think?
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Post by notgoodenough on Jul 16, 2019 12:38:51 GMT
As others have said maybe writing down how you feel can help? You could start it as a journal or open letter to the community about the issues you think don't get talked about enough. Let us know what you think?
I would love to do that but if I write an open letter who is going to publish it? |
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Post by Rasher on Jul 16, 2019 16:13:16 GMT
We can certainly look at publishing either on OutLife or via FS magazine which is part of GMFA - the gay men's health project (OutLife and GMFA are part of the same family). If you write it send it to us at outlife@lgbthero.org.uk. We'd be more than happy to look into publishing it for you.
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